Now that feels real good doesn’t it! So many of us spend so much time blaming and distancing ourselves from our families. Some of us will swear on our graves that we didn’t pick our families. Many of us don’t even want to talk about our families. Then there are those of us that are trying to forget our families. Well, I’m here to suggest that all of the above may condemn us to countless lifetimes of lessons and struggles. Why, because our families are our greatest teachers and ultimately our silver platter Saviors. It all begins with our incarnation into our families, and the lessons with our families don’t end until we take full responsibility for everything we attract to into our experience from our families. Kinda sucks doesn’t it? We can chose to be in denial about what are families are teaching us about ourselves or empowered by what we are learning and transcending. Two voices, two choices. One voice is of the ego and one voice is the higher self.
Posts Tagged ‘family of origin’
|
|
Family Ties – When to Let Go
Ruth consulted with me because she was confused about what to do regarding her mother, her brother, and her son.
From the time Ruth was born, she never felt like she belonged in her family. Her mother ignored Ruth, obviously preferring her brother, and consistently allowed her brother to beat Ruth up. Ruth had some connection with her father, but he was a weak man and never stood up for her or protected her.
Ruth was a loving child and tried in any way she could to please her mother and brother, to no avail. She could never understand why her family didn’t like her.
What Makes Strong and Nurturing Families?
Human beings have the longest dependency on others than any other living creature. We spend our lives in relationships, either toxic or nurturing. If the family of origin was not supportive and loving, we either repeat that pattern or look for other mentors and teachers.
Can you visualize a closed fist as opposed to an open hand? That is the difference between a closed and dysfunctional group and a learning, sharing and supportive one. The closed one is turned inward and harsh in judgment and expectations. The open one is welcoming and willing to help others as well as receive help.